Comments for Finding Optimism http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog A Positive Approach to Mental Health Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:38:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on How to Support Someone with Depression by amy http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-3/#comment-20013 amy Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:38:13 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20013 I understand all of this is a disorder depression. I've had it myself but i've always been quite shy of admitting i've ever had a problem adiment i'll fight it and i have. It was never me- it was my surroundings the people, they way i was taught, my thoughts and what i didn't know. I've never blamed anyone for how i feel but understanding why things affect you is important so you can deal with it next time and keep yourself in top form. However you have to realise look at people who have made it.... who have the success you want. If they can do it so can you. Depression is just a by product of a situation thats making you feel helpless or out of control. Jumping and taking a risk is the first stage! Do something to make yourself happy listern to some music eat, drink, see friends... get support... All we need in life is to furfll our basic spiritual and physical needs.. If we could just learn nothing is instant. Things develop so develop patients for yourself and notice as you take new steps what helps and what doesn't - you will get closer and one day you will be totally happy. For the meantime it seems quite normal even humanlike to have on and off days down periods e.t.c... Having to many down periods can't be good but realise things come in 3's and there will be an amazing time to make up for it. Everything in life is about balance. Although realise there is no differnce between later and now... and you can let good happen by letting go of the negative! Face your fear and your demons! Stop thinking I'll do something later.. when later comes you will think later... Start thinking 'now' Your life will change- Trust me mine has. Holding onto hope is a massive achievement. Know how lucky you are when you have this! Everybody has this. Nothing is wrong with any of you people, change your perception- try it- You will soon see. I understand all of this is a disorder depression. I’ve had it myself but i’ve always been quite shy of admitting i’ve ever had a problem adiment i’ll fight it and i have. It was never me- it was my surroundings the people, they way i was taught, my thoughts and what i didn’t know. I’ve never blamed anyone for how i feel but understanding why things affect you is important so you can deal with it next time and keep yourself in top form. However you have to realise look at people who have made it…. who have the success you want. If they can do it so can you. Depression is just a by product of a situation thats making you feel helpless or out of control. Jumping and taking a risk is the first stage! Do something to make yourself happy listern to some music eat, drink, see friends… get support… All we need in life is to furfll our basic spiritual and physical needs.. If we could just learn nothing is instant. Things develop so develop patients for yourself and notice as you take new steps what helps and what doesn’t – you will get closer and one day you will be totally happy. For the meantime it seems quite normal even humanlike to have on and off days down periods e.t.c… Having to many down periods can’t be good but realise things come in 3′s and there will be an amazing time to make up for it. Everything in life is about balance. Although realise there is no differnce between later and now… and you can let good happen by letting go of the negative! Face your fear and your demons! Stop thinking I’ll do something later.. when later comes you will think later… Start thinking ‘now’ Your life will change- Trust me mine has. Holding onto hope is a massive achievement. Know how lucky you are when you have this! Everybody has this. Nothing is wrong with any of you people, change your perception- try it- You will soon see.

]]> Comment on Depressed Husband | My Key Strategy by ess http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/depressed-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-20010 ess Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:23:41 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/staying-well/the-depression-dialogue/#comment-20010 i have recently started dating a person. (4 months). Things were great till about a week ago. she had a big stress in her life that became a reality. Now I am being shut out. From big love to she could not be bothered to text me or even just reply. hi. I am reading up on the desease and has come to realize that it is the illness.. however i am the person that wants to sort everything out right now. cant go to bed mad. so for her to just shut down and not speak to me is very hurtfull for me and somewhat of an emotional abuse on me. i think she is also in denial about being depressed. she has never used that word. i guess she is ashamed. do i try and find it in me to stay with this person which i love. or should i run.. X i have recently started dating a person. (4 months). Things were great till about a week ago. she had a big stress in her life that became a reality. Now I am being shut out. From big love to she could not be bothered to text me or even just reply. hi. I am reading up on the desease and has come to realize that it is the illness.. however i am the person that wants to sort everything out right now. cant go to bed mad. so for her to just shut down and not speak to me is very hurtfull for me and somewhat of an emotional abuse on me. i think she is also in denial about being depressed. she has never used that word. i guess she is ashamed. do i try and find it in me to stay with this person which i love. or should i run.. X

]]> Comment on Best Depression Blogs by hommyl http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/reviews/blogs-on-depression/comment-page-3/#comment-20004 hommyl Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:41:19 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=58#comment-20004 The Kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in a field. When a man knows that it is there, he is filled with joy. He sells everything that he has, and he buys that field so that the treasure may be his. The Kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in a field. When a man knows that it is there, he is filled with joy. He sells everything that he has, and he buys that field so that the treasure may be his.

]]> Comment on Best Depression Blogs by hommyl http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/reviews/blogs-on-depression/comment-page-3/#comment-20003 hommyl Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:11:14 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=58#comment-20003 pray to God Hayden. pray to God Hayden.

]]> Comment on Best Depression Blogs by hommyl http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/reviews/blogs-on-depression/comment-page-3/#comment-20002 hommyl Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:10:06 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=58#comment-20002 the best medicine and the only thing that can make humans happy is good and God. the best medicine and the only thing that can make humans happy is good and God.

]]> Comment on How to Help Someone with Depression by jake rose http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-help-someone-with-depression/comment-page-6/#comment-19979 jake rose Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:38:51 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/healthy-mind/ways-to-build-up-someone-with-depression/#comment-19979 i have no personal experiences with depression nor am i someone who can help you. I just need help. I know this girl and two weeks ago we started to get to know each other. she told me she liked me and i like her too. just today she told me she used to be in a emotional abusive relationship with one of my friends and she has been cutting since grade 5 (now we're grade 9). then today she texted me and told me that she wasn't ready for me and told me to stop talking to her. of coarse i said "I'll give you all the time you need because i want what is best for you. I will always be here if you ever need any help." and i agreed to leave her alone. First of all, was this the right thing to do? I dont know what to do, i have no idea how to help her, and i dont want to stop talking to her but i promised her i would. i know i only really started to know her two weeks ago but i care so much for her and i feel like God is just saying "be there for her". to make it worse i feel as if i try to talk to her to help her i will be betraying her. i would go to the ends of the earth for this girl. i just need some help. she needs my help. i have no personal experiences with depression nor am i someone who can help you. I just need help. I know this girl and two weeks ago we started to get to know each other. she told me she liked me and i like her too. just today she told me she used to be in a emotional abusive relationship with one of my friends and she has been cutting since grade 5 (now we’re grade 9). then today she texted me and told me that she wasn’t ready for me and told me to stop talking to her. of coarse i said “I’ll give you all the time you need because i want what is best for you. I will always be here if you ever need any help.” and i agreed to leave her alone. First of all, was this the right thing to do? I dont know what to do, i have no idea how to help her, and i dont want to stop talking to her but i promised her i would. i know i only really started to know her two weeks ago but i care so much for her and i feel like God is just saying “be there for her”. to make it worse i feel as if i try to talk to her to help her i will be betraying her. i would go to the ends of the earth for this girl. i just need some help. she needs my help.

]]> Comment on How to Support Someone with Depression by Cameron http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-3/#comment-19961 Cameron Fri, 03 Feb 2012 04:49:55 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-19961 My girlfriend struggles with depression and it kills me to see the pain she is going through.... I find myself in tears almost daily now... my one goal in life is to see her happy again, and for her to find peace in God again. I will never give up on her. I will fight this disease and satan until my heart stops beating and they bury me in the ground! My girlfriend struggles with depression and it kills me to see the pain she is going through…. I find myself in tears almost daily now… my one goal in life is to see her happy again, and for her to find peace in God again. I will never give up on her. I will fight this disease and satan until my heart stops beating and they bury me in the ground!

]]> Comment on How to Help Someone with Depression by Lucky0806 http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-help-someone-with-depression/comment-page-5/#comment-19939 Lucky0806 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:46:30 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/healthy-mind/ways-to-build-up-someone-with-depression/#comment-19939 Scared - I had never thought about helping my boyfriend out of his funk. I assumed he wanted to be alone and needed that time, but after reading your post and giving it some thought, i think i am doing the wrong thing too. He says he could sit in his room forever and watch movies and never go anywhere, but i wonder if i tried to visit him and tried to talk and reconnect if it would help him back out of his funk? I still haven't heard from him. I continue to send supportive and loving text messages, but i have no idea if i'm hurting or helping him. Scared –

I had never thought about helping my boyfriend out of his funk. I assumed he wanted to be alone and needed that time, but after reading your post and giving it some thought, i think i am doing the wrong thing too. He says he could sit in his room forever and watch movies and never go anywhere, but i wonder if i tried to visit him and tried to talk and reconnect if it would help him back out of his funk? I still haven’t heard from him. I continue to send supportive and loving text messages, but i have no idea if i’m hurting or helping him.

]]> Comment on How to Help Someone with Depression by Scared- http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-help-someone-with-depression/comment-page-5/#comment-19936 Scared- Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:42:25 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/healthy-mind/ways-to-build-up-someone-with-depression/#comment-19936 My boyfriend of 8 years is suffering with severe depression. A few years ago he was injured at work at since then has been in this state. He didn’t get any compensation, and lost his job. When it first happened I didn’t understand the magnitude of how sad he was, and I didn’t help him. I didn’t know, how could I not know? He feels like I wasnt there for him, what he needed was someone to force him out that funk. I thought he needed me to be strong and wait until he was ready. I was wrong! Now he feels like there is no reason to go on, to do the daily tasks that make a life. How can I help him? I only want for him to be happy, more than anything. - My boyfriend of 8 years is suffering with severe depression. A few years ago he was injured at work at since then has been in this state. He didn’t get any compensation, and lost his job. When it first happened I didn’t understand the magnitude of how sad he was, and I didn’t help him. I didn’t know, how could I not know? He feels like I wasnt there for him, what he needed was someone to force him out that funk. I thought he needed me to be strong and wait until he was ready. I was wrong! Now he feels like there is no reason to go on, to do the daily tasks that make a life. How can I help him? I only want for him to be happy, more than anything.
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]]> Comment on CBT for Exercise by Noch Noch | be me. be natural. http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/around-the-web/cbt-for-exercise/comment-page-1/#comment-19935 Noch Noch | be me. be natural. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:19:55 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/?p=1829#comment-19935 agreed. psychologists always say exercise is good - but how do i get my @ss off my couch and go to the gym when i have no motivation for anything? sigh oh wells. maybe i need to associate more with positive outcomes as those participants in the paper Noch Noch agreed. psychologists always say exercise is good – but how do i get my @ss off my couch and go to the gym when i have no motivation for anything? sigh
oh wells. maybe i need to associate more with positive outcomes as those participants in the paper
Noch Noch

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