Comments on: How to Support Someone with Depression http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/ A Positive Approach to Mental Health Wed, 16 May 2012 22:44:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Judy http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20288 Judy Tue, 21 Feb 2012 07:16:27 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20288 Thank you for the interesting article. I have been having great difficulty the past few months. I just can't seem to pick myself up from this dark hole I'm in. 14 months ago I had a little boy born without the left side of his heart called HLHS he has undergone 2 open heart surgeries and several other procedures. The year before that I was in a horrible abusive relationship. I left the relationship when my special son was born and went through this pretty much by myself. My 16 year old daughter was there to help me when she could. I was jobless and homeless. I was given a apartment from a racehorse trainer and after Noah got out of the hospital I worked when I could for the trainer. I never had time to stop! I met a wonderful man, we recently moved in together. Then it just hit me. He just pushes and pushes and gives me ultimatums. I tell him I don't know what is wrong. I try to open up when I can only for it to be not good enough and I just don't snap out of things as he thinks I should. I am growing to resent him for this. Every day it is these huge talks and just so stressful. I just want to scream. Iam in the process of getting help. My I just feel like I'm going to explode. I just want to run away from it all sometimes. No one seems to understand And I don't know how to fix it. Thank you for letting me talk. Thank you for the interesting article.
I have been having great difficulty the past few months. I just can’t seem to pick myself up from this dark hole I’m in.
14 months ago I had a little boy born without the left side of his heart called HLHS he has undergone 2 open heart surgeries and several other procedures.
The year before that I was in a horrible abusive relationship. I left the relationship when my special son was born and went through this pretty much by myself. My 16 year old daughter was there to help me when she could. I was jobless and homeless.
I was given a apartment from a racehorse trainer and after Noah got out of the hospital I worked when I could for the trainer.
I never had time to stop!
I met a wonderful man, we recently moved in together.
Then it just hit me. He just pushes and pushes and gives me ultimatums. I tell him I don’t know what is wrong. I try to open up when I can only for it to be not good enough and I just don’t snap out of things as he thinks I should.
I am growing to resent him for this. Every day it is these huge talks and just so stressful. I just want to scream.
Iam in the process of getting help. My I just feel like I’m going to explode. I just want to run away from it all sometimes. No one seems to understand And I don’t know how to fix it.
Thank you for letting me talk.

]]> By: niks http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20199 niks Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:27:55 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20199 there is a girl who is 23yr old and listining everybody but not talking..........but when somebody ask/tell her she only says "what is" is it sign of depression? has somebody symptom of this problem? please tell me as soon as possible and how you overcome from this problem? there is a girl who is 23yr old and listining everybody but not talking……….but when somebody ask/tell her she only says “what is”

is it sign of depression?

has somebody symptom of this problem?
please tell me as soon as possible and
how you overcome from this problem?

]]> By: nik http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20198 nik Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:24:46 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20198 there is a girl who is 23yr old and listining everybody but not talking..........but when somebody ask/tell her she only says "what is" is it sign of depression? has somebody symptom of this problem? please tell me as soon as possible and how you overcome from this problem? there is a girl who is 23yr old and listining everybody but not talking……….but when somebody ask/tell her she only says “what is”

is it sign of depression?

has somebody symptom of this problem?
please tell me as soon as possible and
how you overcome from this problem?

]]> By: Marla Jo Zeller http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20167 Marla Jo Zeller Wed, 15 Feb 2012 10:43:21 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20167 There are a lot of people who are offended when you suggest they need help but they may need to hear it to think about it. and some people, I have a daughter, refuse to take meds for years for fear of the side effects. My daughter finally went to a fibro doctor this week and got some pain meds and she's been in pain for 20 years! You just have to love them through it and be patient with them. Do what you can for them and be understanding. Suggest what you can and let them think about it. Sooner or later things will change for them one way or another.You will see. It is their life. It is their decisions and their sufferings and their pains. You can't life it for them. Do what y ou can and live your own life in your happiness. There are a lot of people who are offended when you suggest they need help but they may need to hear it to think about it. and some people, I have a daughter, refuse to take meds for years for fear of the side effects. My daughter finally went to a fibro doctor this week and got some pain meds and she’s been in pain for 20 years! You just have to love them through it and be patient with them. Do what you can for them and be understanding. Suggest what you can and let them think about it. Sooner or later things will change for them one way or another.You will see. It is their life. It is their decisions and their sufferings and their pains. You can’t life it for them. Do what y ou can and live your own life in your happiness.

]]> By: Maya http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20163 Maya Wed, 15 Feb 2012 10:14:28 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20163 My mom has been depressed for years. All of the symptoms sound exactly like her. I don't know what to do. I think I have been doing everything wrong. She says she feels hollow inside, that there is no point or purpose to her life, and that she has no energy for anything. She says she doesn't know what to hold onto and that there seems to be no hope...and that she just has to "get back up a d keep going." When and how should I suggest "getting help?" what does that even mean? When do change from saying that the circumstamces of your life are hard to saying that maybe you should see a doctor? Isnt it kind of like saying that "normal" people could handle this but you can't because you're depressed? I don't want to hurt her. My mom doesn't really believe in taking medicine; she doesn't even like taking Advil when she has a headache. I am so sad for her. And I'm tired. And I feel like a giant failure. My mom has been depressed for years. All of the symptoms sound exactly like her. I don’t know what to do. I think I have been doing everything wrong. She says she feels hollow inside, that there is no point or purpose to her life, and that she has no energy for anything. She says she doesn’t know what to hold onto and that there seems to be no hope…and that she just has to “get back up a d keep going.”

When and how should I suggest “getting help?” what does that even mean? When do change from saying that the circumstamces of your life are hard to saying that maybe you should see a doctor? Isnt it kind of like saying that “normal” people could handle this but you can’t because you’re depressed? I don’t want to hurt her. My mom doesn’t really believe in taking medicine; she doesn’t even like taking Advil when she has a headache.

I am so sad for her. And I’m tired. And I feel like a giant failure.

]]> By: amy http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-20013 amy Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:38:13 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-20013 I understand all of this is a disorder depression. I've had it myself but i've always been quite shy of admitting i've ever had a problem adiment i'll fight it and i have. It was never me- it was my surroundings the people, they way i was taught, my thoughts and what i didn't know. I've never blamed anyone for how i feel but understanding why things affect you is important so you can deal with it next time and keep yourself in top form. However you have to realise look at people who have made it.... who have the success you want. If they can do it so can you. Depression is just a by product of a situation thats making you feel helpless or out of control. Jumping and taking a risk is the first stage! Do something to make yourself happy listern to some music eat, drink, see friends... get support... All we need in life is to furfll our basic spiritual and physical needs.. If we could just learn nothing is instant. Things develop so develop patients for yourself and notice as you take new steps what helps and what doesn't - you will get closer and one day you will be totally happy. For the meantime it seems quite normal even humanlike to have on and off days down periods e.t.c... Having to many down periods can't be good but realise things come in 3's and there will be an amazing time to make up for it. Everything in life is about balance. Although realise there is no differnce between later and now... and you can let good happen by letting go of the negative! Face your fear and your demons! Stop thinking I'll do something later.. when later comes you will think later... Start thinking 'now' Your life will change- Trust me mine has. Holding onto hope is a massive achievement. Know how lucky you are when you have this! Everybody has this. Nothing is wrong with any of you people, change your perception- try it- You will soon see. I understand all of this is a disorder depression. I’ve had it myself but i’ve always been quite shy of admitting i’ve ever had a problem adiment i’ll fight it and i have. It was never me- it was my surroundings the people, they way i was taught, my thoughts and what i didn’t know. I’ve never blamed anyone for how i feel but understanding why things affect you is important so you can deal with it next time and keep yourself in top form. However you have to realise look at people who have made it…. who have the success you want. If they can do it so can you. Depression is just a by product of a situation thats making you feel helpless or out of control. Jumping and taking a risk is the first stage! Do something to make yourself happy listern to some music eat, drink, see friends… get support… All we need in life is to furfll our basic spiritual and physical needs.. If we could just learn nothing is instant. Things develop so develop patients for yourself and notice as you take new steps what helps and what doesn’t – you will get closer and one day you will be totally happy. For the meantime it seems quite normal even humanlike to have on and off days down periods e.t.c… Having to many down periods can’t be good but realise things come in 3′s and there will be an amazing time to make up for it. Everything in life is about balance. Although realise there is no differnce between later and now… and you can let good happen by letting go of the negative! Face your fear and your demons! Stop thinking I’ll do something later.. when later comes you will think later… Start thinking ‘now’ Your life will change- Trust me mine has. Holding onto hope is a massive achievement. Know how lucky you are when you have this! Everybody has this. Nothing is wrong with any of you people, change your perception- try it- You will soon see.

]]> By: Cameron http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-8/#comment-19961 Cameron Fri, 03 Feb 2012 04:49:55 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-19961 My girlfriend struggles with depression and it kills me to see the pain she is going through.... I find myself in tears almost daily now... my one goal in life is to see her happy again, and for her to find peace in God again. I will never give up on her. I will fight this disease and satan until my heart stops beating and they bury me in the ground! My girlfriend struggles with depression and it kills me to see the pain she is going through…. I find myself in tears almost daily now… my one goal in life is to see her happy again, and for her to find peace in God again. I will never give up on her. I will fight this disease and satan until my heart stops beating and they bury me in the ground!

]]> By: Magpie http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-7/#comment-19908 Magpie Tue, 31 Jan 2012 00:40:49 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-19908 Having read a lot of the posts here was wondering if anyone had some advice for me? My husband and I have been married now for just over a year and are expecting a baby in a few months. He has been told he is suffering from depression by well meaning people but i get to the point where i think he over thinks so much it makes him depressed... i sometimes feel he likes being this way. I try to be supportive but it gets to the point where i feel completely alone in dealing with my older daughter from another relationship and preparing for new arrivals. He has been to the doctors a few times and is on long term meds which have just been changed due to not being effective. He sits in tears some days. i dont understand it as much as i try. I try and point out the positives in his life and he will come back negative... It is almost as if he isnt happy unless the rest of us are miserable. This might sound awful to someone suffering from depression, but i find it very difficult to cope with my own issues and hormones without trying to help him too. It may seem selfish and i often feel guilty. when he is at his worst i often feel like how dare he be like that! he never stops moaning about everything but do nothing to help out and my daughter is suffering from his short temper verbaly. This may sound like a jumbled mess but i need help understanding him as he is driving me crazy. Having read a lot of the posts here was wondering if anyone had some advice for me?
My husband and I have been married now for just over a year and are expecting a baby in a few months. He has been told he is suffering from depression by well meaning people but i get to the point where i think he over thinks so much it makes him depressed… i sometimes feel he likes being this way. I try to be supportive but it gets to the point where i feel completely alone in dealing with my older daughter from another relationship and preparing for new arrivals.
He has been to the doctors a few times and is on long term meds which have just been changed due to not being effective. He sits in tears some days. i dont understand it as much as i try. I try and point out the positives in his life and he will come back negative… It is almost as if he isnt happy unless the rest of us are miserable. This might sound awful to someone suffering from depression, but i find it very difficult to cope with my own issues and hormones without trying to help him too. It may seem selfish and i often feel guilty. when he is at his worst i often feel like how dare he be like that! he never stops moaning about everything but do nothing to help out and my daughter is suffering from his short temper verbaly. This may sound like a jumbled mess but i need help understanding him as he is driving me crazy.

]]> By: ash http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-7/#comment-19870 ash Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:16:26 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-19870 we been together 7 yrs. we been together 7 yrs.

]]> By: ash http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-support-someone-with-depression/comment-page-7/#comment-19869 ash Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:08:55 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/lifestyle/12-ways-to-care-for-a-depressed-person/#comment-19869 I don't even eat right anymore at al. also I'm bipolar I wass once told Ihad a.d.d ontop of that borderline personalty disorder. wow is that crazy? help me I sometimes like now feel ashamed. he's so quiet I annoy him I feel lol I talk a lot. lol ill be talkn to him and he wont hear me. I just wannabe alone a lot or sleep. I don't want to take medication...the lady precribed me lithium ahh I'm very/ extremly tired right now. your gonna laugh at me but ohwell only reason I'm up is because I spent along time tonight slowly reading and listening to quite a few of u. I feel I belong here.. ;-( u seem to describe me. I do have. my good days but I cant keep the good days I 'm very moody at times god plz help me with advice... I'm not understood and he tells me the way I am and preaches at me on how I should be. I cant help it. Its hard very........I now days just wanna run and hide....I am very helpful I'm good hearted. I love everybody. I give my last, I feel like just melting in a hole but I'm very thankful I love my family. I'm thankful for my sweetheart...yes the one who preaches at me:).... erik...if it wasn't for him being at my side and helping me through the times of guilt..anxiety...mood changes....anger .... etc he must love me right:) he's strong minded :) god gave us eachother. I stay home and wait on my best friend or text been sleeping during day while he's at work. I feel that he's the only one that accepts me I love this site. I don’t even eat right anymore at al. also I’m bipolar I wass once told Ihad a.d.d ontop of that borderline personalty disorder. wow is that crazy? help me I sometimes like now feel ashamed. he’s so quiet I annoy him I feel lol I talk a lot. lol ill be talkn to him and he wont hear me. I just wannabe alone a lot or sleep. I don’t want to take medication…the lady precribed me lithium ahh I’m very/ extremly tired right now. your gonna laugh at me but ohwell only reason I’m up is because I spent along time tonight slowly reading and listening to quite a few of u. I feel I belong here.. ;-( u seem to describe me. I do have. my good days but I cant keep the good days I ‘m very moody at times god plz help me with advice… I’m not understood and he tells me the way I am and preaches at me on how I should be. I cant help it. Its hard very……..I now days just wanna run and hide….I am very helpful I’m good hearted. I love everybody. I give my last, I feel like just melting in a hole but I’m very thankful I love my family. I’m thankful for my sweetheart…yes the one who preaches at me:)…. erik…if it wasn’t for him being at my side and helping me through the times of guilt..anxiety…mood changes….anger …. etc he must love me right:) he’s strong minded :) god gave us eachother. I stay home and wait on my best friend or text been sleeping during day while he’s at work. I feel that he’s the only one that accepts me I love this site.

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