Comments on: How to Support Someone with Depression

By: amy

amy — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:38:13 +0000

I understand all of this is a disorder depression. I’ve had it myself but i’ve always been quite shy of admitting i’ve ever had a problem adiment i’ll fight it and i have. It was never me- it was my surroundings the people, they way i was taught, my thoughts and what i didn’t know. I’ve never blamed anyone for how i feel but understanding why things affect you is important so you can deal with it next time and keep yourself in top form. However you have to realise look at people who have made it…. who have the success you want. If they can do it so can you. Depression is just a by product of a situation thats making you feel helpless or out of control. Jumping and taking a risk is the first stage! Do something to make yourself happy listern to some music eat, drink, see friends… get support… All we need in life is to furfll our basic spiritual and physical needs.. If we could just learn nothing is instant. Things develop so develop patients for yourself and notice as you take new steps what helps and what doesn’t – you will get closer and one day you will be totally happy. For the meantime it seems quite normal even humanlike to have on and off days down periods e.t.c… Having to many down periods can’t be good but realise things come in 3′s and there will be an amazing time to make up for it. Everything in life is about balance. Although realise there is no differnce between later and now… and you can let good happen by letting go of the negative! Face your fear and your demons! Stop thinking I’ll do something later.. when later comes you will think later… Start thinking ‘now’ Your life will change- Trust me mine has. Holding onto hope is a massive achievement. Know how lucky you are when you have this! Everybody has this. Nothing is wrong with any of you people, change your perception- try it- You will soon see.

By: Cameron

Cameron — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 04:49:55 +0000

My girlfriend struggles with depression and it kills me to see the pain she is going through…. I find myself in tears almost daily now… my one goal in life is to see her happy again, and for her to find peace in God again. I will never give up on her. I will fight this disease and satan until my heart stops beating and they bury me in the ground!

By: Magpie

Magpie — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 00:40:49 +0000

Having read a lot of the posts here was wondering if anyone had some advice for me?
My husband and I have been married now for just over a year and are expecting a baby in a few months. He has been told he is suffering from depression by well meaning people but i get to the point where i think he over thinks so much it makes him depressed… i sometimes feel he likes being this way. I try to be supportive but it gets to the point where i feel completely alone in dealing with my older daughter from another relationship and preparing for new arrivals.
He has been to the doctors a few times and is on long term meds which have just been changed due to not being effective. He sits in tears some days. i dont understand it as much as i try. I try and point out the positives in his life and he will come back negative… It is almost as if he isnt happy unless the rest of us are miserable. This might sound awful to someone suffering from depression, but i find it very difficult to cope with my own issues and hormones without trying to help him too. It may seem selfish and i often feel guilty. when he is at his worst i often feel like how dare he be like that! he never stops moaning about everything but do nothing to help out and my daughter is suffering from his short temper verbaly. This may sound like a jumbled mess but i need help understanding him as he is driving me crazy.

By: ash

ash — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:16:26 +0000

we been together 7 yrs.

By: ash

ash — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:08:55 +0000

I don’t even eat right anymore at al. also I’m bipolar I wass once told Ihad a.d.d ontop of that borderline personalty disorder. wow is that crazy? help me I sometimes like now feel ashamed. he’s so quiet I annoy him I feel lol I talk a lot. lol ill be talkn to him and he wont hear me. I just wannabe alone a lot or sleep. I don’t want to take medication…the lady precribed me lithium ahh I’m very/ extremly tired right now. your gonna laugh at me but ohwell only reason I’m up is because I spent along time tonight slowly reading and listening to quite a few of u. I feel I belong here.. ;-( u seem to describe me. I do have. my good days but I cant keep the good days I ‘m very moody at times god plz help me with advice… I’m not understood and he tells me the way I am and preaches at me on how I should be. I cant help it. Its hard very……..I now days just wanna run and hide….I am very helpful I’m good hearted. I love everybody. I give my last, I feel like just melting in a hole but I’m very thankful I love my family. I’m thankful for my sweetheart…yes the one who preaches at me:)…. erik…if it wasn’t for him being at my side and helping me through the times of guilt..anxiety…mood changes….anger …. etc he must love me right:) he’s strong minded :) god gave us eachother. I stay home and wait on my best friend or text been sleeping during day while he’s at work. I feel that he’s the only one that accepts me I love this site.

By: ash

ash — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 10:22:33 +0000

I don’t even eat right anymore at al. also I’m bipolar I wass once told Ihad a.d.d ontop of that borderline personalty disorder. wow am crazy? help me I sometimes like now feel ashamed. he’s so quiet I annoy him I feel lol I talk a lot. lol ill be talkn to him and he wont hear me. I just wannabe alone a lot or sleep. I don’t want to take medication…the lady precribed me lithium ahh I’m very/ extremly tired right now. your gonna laugh at me but ohwell only reason I’m up is because I spent along time tonight slowly reading and listening to quite a few of u. I feel I belong here.. ;-( u seem to describe me. I do have. my good days but I cant keep the good days I’m very moody at times god plz help me. I seem to name call

By: ash

ash — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 10:07:20 +0000

By: Faith Dwyer

Faith Dwyer — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 01:55:50 +0000

What about when it’s a Major Depressive Disorder WITH
psychosis. After 6 months of trying to deal with the psychosis I found it entirely too difficult, and, in fact, dangerous. I live with a HUGE amount of guilt for not being able to deal with it and sending the love of my life back to the town of his origin all alone and more depressed than ever. I wish we’d never hooked up. i feel like i’ve caused him even MORE pain than he ever deserved in his life.

By: tommy

tommy — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 18:57:16 +0000

I have been with my wife for 14 years although we have only been married for 7. We have a beautiful 7 year old daughter. My wife was sexually abused by a family member when she was young and was never allowed to deal with it. No counseling.no mentioning it to any one, and made to live in the same house with that person while growing up. I myself didn’t even find out about it until 6 years after we had been together. I knew that she acted a little withdrawn from people even when we first got together. She is a wonderful person and I have done everything that I can think of to help her. We took a job together in a tourist business that had her mingling with people for 8-10 hours a day and she really got better and became more out going. Well that job ended and we moved back down closer to her family when the baby was born. Everything was going great for a while and I noticed that she started losing interest in lots of things. Her moods were up and down, ahe didn’t want to go out or do things as a family, and I sugested that she see some one and see if there was a problem.She refused and said that there was nothing wrong with her. Well, three years later , her problemed has worsened. She says hurtful things to others and feels that she doesn’t need to apologize. I have had to call hher down for getting on the little girl like a drill seargent on new recruits, she feels no remorse for any of this and when I mention counseling she goes off and screams that there is nothing wrong with her and the other day told me that she wants me to move out that she can handle all of this by herself. She says that I am playing mind games with her and that I think that she is crazy. I tell her that I think no such thing but I think that there is a problem that needs to be taken care of and that the problem is not her fault. She will not listen to reason. I love her with all my heart and want to help her. What do I do next!

By: heather

heather — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:18:02 +0000

I am glad I found this article with all of these posts from caregivers as well as those suffering from depression. I grew up with a father who suffered (still does) from depression. I remember always wondering how my mom was dealing with it. I always said if I was with someone like that there is no way I could deal with it. but guess what…now I am married to someone who suffers from an extreme bipolar disorder and I am trying to deal with it…now I see where my mom was coming from not wanting to give up and putting up with the horrible things because she truly loved my dad. This is one of the hardest things I have ever been through and I dont feel like I am doing a good job! We have been married 6 months now…here lately things have been so bad…I cant tell you how many times he has threatened to leave and divorce me and then two days later “he would never leave me, because I am the best thing ever”. He says meaner things to me than anyone ever has my entire life….it hurts…I try to tell myself that it is the bipolar coming thru and that he loves me but it is very hard to do…this last 2weeks he has been off one of his meds for depression…they have been awful he goes off on me if I say anything at all…wont talk to me…makes me feel like I mean nothing…I try to tell him he really needs to get his meds but he doesnt think he really needs them. I truly love my husband ofcourse thats why I married him…I just dont know what to do anymore. I am a good person and feel like I deserve love and to be emotionally supported to but we are too busy catering to his moods I’ve just given up on my feelings and am just trying to find a way to make our marriage work. The comments on here have started to help me have a little insight…it helps to know that this is common…and not just my husband “hating” me…but it doesnt make it any easier to deal with. Im going to finish reading comments and will continue to check this site. I saw the wqebsite that was posted for help and plan on researching it also.