Comments on: Ways to Insult Someone with Depression (an exercise in sarcasm) http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/ A Positive Approach to Mental Health Wed, 16 May 2012 22:44:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: james http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19916 james Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:49:01 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19916 Readers keep misinterpreting this post as making fun of people with depression. As I wrote previously: "I want to clarify again that this post was written “tongue in cheek”. Judging from the comments above most people understand this, but occasionally a person is offended; they’ve missed my sarcastic tone." I've decided to close comments on this post. I encourage readers to visit another post on this site <a href="http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/depression/how-to-help-someone-with-depression/" rel="nofollow">How to Help Someone with Depression</a>, which lists some of the best things you can say. Readers keep misinterpreting this post as making fun of people with depression. As I wrote previously: “I want to clarify again that this post was written “tongue in cheek”. Judging from the comments above most people understand this, but occasionally a person is offended; they’ve missed my sarcastic tone.”

I’ve decided to close comments on this post. I encourage readers to visit another post on this site How to Help Someone with Depression, which lists some of the best things you can say.

]]> By: Amy http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19915 Amy Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:35:33 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19915 Hey how dare you say things like you have. I can help it if I have depression. I know I have it, I know it maybe running my life but what can I do? It is not something you can just get rid of, if someone says "get over it" , i've been depressed for a very long tome, I am trying to work on it, and then I see this. I can't believe you guys are even saying these things. I'm sure you know right from wrong. Well I sure home you think next time when you decide to do such a thing again. Hey how dare you say things like you have.
I can help it if I have depression. I know I have it, I know it maybe running my life but what can I do?
It is not something you can just get rid of, if someone says “get over it” , i’ve been depressed for a very long tome, I am trying to work on it, and then I see this.
I can’t believe you guys are even saying these things. I’m sure you know right from wrong. Well I sure home you think next time when you decide to do such a thing again.

]]> By: Melody http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19914 Melody Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:29:09 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19914 What the f**k is wrong with you guys, you ned to give yourselfs heads a shake, why must you insult people going through a hard time, what would you feel if I did this stuff to you? What the f**k is wrong with you guys, you ned to give yourselfs heads a shake, why must you insult people going through a hard time, what would you feel if I did this stuff to you?

]]> By: Crystal http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19906 Crystal Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:35:39 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19906 To the people who have written even more insensitive comments telling us to "get over it"....how dare you? If you have nothing helpful to contribute, then why comment? This is for David, Jenn, Dean, and every other person who has left obnoxious comments. Clearly you know nothing about depression. It is hell. It is not something that a person can simply snap out of. The last therapist I visited made some very condescending remarks about my depression. After six sessions, I did not return because I'm sick of all the ignorance. Depression hurts. It can kill you. People who suffer from depression are treated with no compassion at all. Would you tell a cancer patient to just get over it and move on with life? No, I don't think so. Stop being judgmental when you don't know what it is like. Yes, there are others in this world who have it worse but everyone deals with things differently. When you belittle people who suffer from depression, that isn't helpful...it only adds to the problem. To the people who have written even more insensitive comments telling us to “get over it”….how dare you? If you have nothing helpful to contribute, then why comment? This is for David, Jenn, Dean, and every other person who has left obnoxious comments.

Clearly you know nothing about depression. It is hell. It is not something that a person can simply snap out of.

The last therapist I visited made some very condescending remarks about my depression. After six sessions, I did not return because I’m sick of all the ignorance.

Depression hurts. It can kill you. People who suffer from depression are treated with no compassion at all. Would you tell a cancer patient to just get over it and move on with life? No, I don’t think so.

Stop being judgmental when you don’t know what it is like. Yes, there are others in this world who have it worse but everyone deals with things differently. When you belittle people who suffer from depression, that isn’t helpful…it only adds to the problem.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19904 Laurie Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:43:52 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19904 Jae, I say, kudos to you for keeping at trying to solve the issue all these years! Like you, my depression started young, with pre-adolescent hormones, and my family was useless. The hormones and depression may be related. Please, please don't give up. A physical with hormone tests may help you get into a better balance, along with a better therapist and the right meds. Sadly, depression treatment is not a finished science, and a lot of plain ol' art goes into it. But I found a fantastic therapist in a small Wyoming town and I'm managing to deal. Please try again. Jae,

I say, kudos to you for keeping at trying to solve the issue all these years! Like you, my depression started young, with pre-adolescent hormones, and my family was useless. The hormones and depression may be related. Please, please don’t give up. A physical with hormone tests may help you get into a better balance, along with a better therapist and the right meds. Sadly, depression treatment is not a finished science, and a lot of plain ol’ art goes into it. But I found a fantastic therapist in a small Wyoming town and I’m managing to deal. Please try again.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19903 Laurie Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:41:17 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19903 Suzi, Please call 1-800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) and speak to someone, right now. I've been where you are. You can find support and help. It will make a difference. Please call now. Suzi,

Please call 1-800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) and speak to someone, right now. I’ve been where you are. You can find support and help. It will make a difference. Please call now.

]]> By: Suzi http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19841 Suzi Sat, 28 Jan 2012 12:02:01 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19841 I don't even know what to write except that I've been in the same spot on my bed for the last 24 hours. Help I don’t even know what to write except that I’ve been in the same spot on my bed for the last 24 hours. Help

]]> By: james http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19848 james Sat, 28 Jan 2012 09:21:44 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19848 Jae, For what it's worth, I was very ill for over 10 years before I started to see someone who could help. It took at least 3 years after that to settle on a mix of medications that did an adequate job, and it's been 7 or 8 years since that I've been working on other things - apart from medicine. My psychiatrist once said to me that there is no such thing as treatment resistant depression - it can just very difficult to find the right treatment for the person. I hope you will persevere until you find the right treatment and get better. James Jae,

For what it’s worth, I was very ill for over 10 years before I started to see someone who could help. It took at least 3 years after that to settle on a mix of medications that did an adequate job, and it’s been 7 or 8 years since that I’ve been working on other things – apart from medicine.

My psychiatrist once said to me that there is no such thing as treatment resistant depression – it can just very difficult to find the right treatment for the person. I hope you will persevere until you find the right treatment and get better.

James

]]> By: Jae http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-12/#comment-19838 Jae Sat, 28 Jan 2012 08:26:06 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19838 I am a chick; just to start things off, not a guy even though everyone says I have almost a male-esque depression...I have been word vomiting on everyone the whole story of my life why not online? I have been depressed since I was 9, back then my suicide plans were: 'I'm going to move to Hawaii, eat a ton until I die alone' That actually always makes me laugh in retrospect, because it’s so cute, I just want to go back and tell myself that’s not how you do it, silly. Made it to 13, got picked on a lot, and thus ate a lot...a LOT... At 14, (this is the good part) my mom read my diaries and, wait for it organized an intervention, because being depressed is as bad as drugs. They made me go to therapy, which ended up being a bust so when I said I wanted to quit she had the audacity to tell me 'you were just jealous of your brother'(who has social anxiety x10) so basically the reason I went to therapy was because she DIDNT invade my privacy. I started therapy again with someone else after a year; it was ok...until.....my mom found my diaries AGAIN after promising they were my privacy the first time. So my beazy therapist told her to bring me in and they did a surprise intervention, which was the pre-cursor to my one major suicide attempt, which happens to be another great story of mother/daughter bonding. Basically I got fed up with everything, the anti-depressants weren’t working, I couldn't trust my therapist or my mother. So like a pro went the pill route....15 minutes and I caved in and told my mom what I had done, thinking it might help, WRONG. After I told her she freaked and cussed at me, words I would never repeat and then went to the middle of the house and screamed: 'Your dumb-ass sister/daughter tried to (f-bomb) kill herself, so we're going to the ER' In the vehicle pretty much heard every single one of those phrases that don't help. What was really hilarious was the fact that I forgot to factor in my enormous weight so had I not said anything to my mom I would've been just fine. Then on the way to school one day she asked how I felt overall, I told her I still felt sad ,which was a mistake, because I got the "snap out of it" "you have no reason to be depressed" and then the "you think you have it bad, [insert life story with little relevance]" So I started smiling, pretending to be happy which the actual advice of my psychiatrist was. I lost a lot of weight after I was diagnosed with ADHD and put on stimulants (didn't emotional eat nearly as much)... I have seen many a therapist and psychiatrists, and at about 17 I had to start paying for my care, because it's not necessary according to my lovely mother. Psychiatrists don't care either, when I told my old one that I was so anxious that I considered killing myself to get out of a date, he replied "I think those feelings are just a part of growing up", when I pressed on that I really thought it was a problem I got the best thing from a Doctor of PSYCHIATRY ~*"well I think you are just too young to have real anxiety"*~ Stopped therapy again, broke ankle and got super depressed being inside all day on pain meds, started on therapist #7. I like #7, because she was able to see the imperfections of my mother, during the intake my mom said ALOUD ~"Yeah, my daughter's broken ankle and depression it’s a real burden and inconvenience to me"~ I don't have family support at all, and therapist #7 moved so I am now seeing #6 again because I like her, but she was really hard to get an appointment with. And where we end off is I am in a deep depression, and I am not at all invested in trying to get better, because it hasn't ever. Tomorrow is my birthday, I will be 19 which means OFFICIALLY over half of my life has been spent in this depression, sure it changes from wanting to kill myself and just wanting to not exist, but how many times can I say "this will be the year everything will get better " I just feel like an idiot now. I haven't been sleeping for 2 months, haven't been eating (I have a cheese slice after 3 days of no food, sue me) and I have in fact been telling anyone these things only to basically be told that it's pointless because I really am not committed to trying, and I have been on so many meds and, the whole exercise route, I am done so saying I am not committed to getting better at this point is totally true. I am sorry for being self-absorbed; this article just brought back all those warm memories, some of the things people said in the comments really made me laugh, because they are sooo relatable. Overall I hope everyone actually can get better, and I know that no one actually will read the whole thing, story of my life. <3 I am a chick; just to start things off, not a guy even though everyone says I have almost a male-esque depression…I have been word vomiting on everyone the whole story of my life why not online? I have been depressed since I was 9, back then my suicide plans were:
‘I’m going to move to Hawaii, eat a ton until I die alone’
That actually always makes me laugh in retrospect, because it’s so cute, I just want to go back and tell myself that’s not how you do it, silly.
Made it to 13, got picked on a lot, and thus ate a lot…a LOT… At 14, (this is the good part) my mom read my diaries and, wait for it organized an intervention, because being depressed is as bad as drugs. They made me go to therapy, which ended up being a bust so when I said I wanted to quit she had the audacity to tell me ‘you were just jealous of your brother’(who has social anxiety x10) so basically the reason I went to therapy was because she DIDNT invade my privacy.
I started therapy again with someone else after a year; it was ok…until…..my mom found my diaries AGAIN after promising they were my privacy the first time. So my beazy therapist told her to bring me in and they did a surprise intervention, which was the pre-cursor to my one major suicide attempt, which happens to be another great story of mother/daughter bonding.
Basically I got fed up with everything, the anti-depressants weren’t working, I couldn’t trust my therapist or my mother. So like a pro went the pill route….15 minutes and I caved in and told my mom what I had done, thinking it might help, WRONG. After I told her she freaked and cussed at me, words I would never repeat and then went to the middle of the house and screamed:
‘Your dumb-ass sister/daughter tried to (f-bomb) kill herself, so we’re going to the ER’
In the vehicle pretty much heard every single one of those phrases that don’t help. What was really hilarious was the fact that I forgot to factor in my enormous weight so had I not said anything to my mom I would’ve been just fine.
Then on the way to school one day she asked how I felt overall, I told her I still felt sad ,which was a mistake, because I got the “snap out of it” “you have no reason to be depressed” and then the “you think you have it bad, [insert life story with little relevance]”
So I started smiling, pretending to be happy which the actual advice of my psychiatrist was. I lost a lot of weight after I was diagnosed with ADHD and put on stimulants (didn’t emotional eat nearly as much)…
I have seen many a therapist and psychiatrists, and at about 17 I had to start paying for my care, because it’s not necessary according to my lovely mother.
Psychiatrists don’t care either, when I told my old one that I was so anxious that I considered killing myself to get out of a date, he replied
“I think those feelings are just a part of growing up”, when I pressed on that I really thought it was a problem I got the best thing from a Doctor of PSYCHIATRY
~*”well I think you are just too young to have real anxiety”*~
Stopped therapy again, broke ankle and got super depressed being inside all day on pain meds, started on therapist #7. I like #7, because she was able to see the imperfections of my mother, during the intake my mom said ALOUD
~”Yeah, my daughter’s broken ankle and depression it’s a real burden and inconvenience to me”~
I don’t have family support at all, and therapist #7 moved so I am now seeing #6 again because I like her, but she was really hard to get an appointment with.
And where we end off is I am in a deep depression, and I am not at all invested in trying to get better, because it hasn’t ever. Tomorrow is my birthday, I will be 19 which means OFFICIALLY over half of my life has been spent in this depression, sure it changes from wanting to kill myself and just wanting to not exist, but how many times can I say “this will be the year everything will get better ” I just feel like an idiot now. I haven’t been sleeping for 2 months, haven’t been eating (I have a cheese slice after 3 days of no food, sue me) and I have in fact been telling anyone these things only to basically be told that it’s pointless because I really am not committed to trying, and I have been on so many meds and, the whole exercise route, I am done so saying I am not committed to getting better at this point is totally true.
I am sorry for being self-absorbed; this article just brought back all those warm memories, some of the things people said in the comments really made me laugh, because they are sooo relatable. Overall I hope everyone actually can get better, and I know that no one actually will read the whole thing, story of my life. <3

]]> By: Jay http://www.findingoptimism.com/blog/relationships/snap-out-of-it/comment-page-11/#comment-19817 Jay Fri, 27 Jan 2012 20:57:06 +0000 http://www.findingoptimism.com/?p=31#comment-19817 My three best friends,know i have went through a phase of cutting a few years back...but now i dont know why and seriously dont see anything funny about it when they get angry or pissed about something they're all like "ugh slit my wrists" ....but they would never do it? and would be the first ones to judge someone if they did..they're trying to make it work as this new 'thing' to say. and i'm just standing there like...um bit*h please? My three best friends,know i have went through a phase of cutting a few years back…but now i dont know why and seriously dont see anything funny about it when they get angry or pissed about something they’re all like “ugh slit my wrists” ….but they would never do it? and would be the first ones to judge someone if they did..they’re trying to make it work as this new ‘thing’ to say. and i’m just standing there like…um bit*h please?

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